Anxiety or suffering from psychological disorders do not seem to seem to rare issues today. However, you can use your own mind to change this, to begin to interact differently with your own mental state, emotions and behaviors, rather than continue to react automatically, as until now every time something comes up that you fear.
People have social roles and identities and are described or defined as persons based on them such as a teacher, a mother or father, a doctor, a good friend and they are also defined on the basis of their own emotional problems such as anxious, depressed and shy. Often these identifications, when healthy are useful but when we cling to them in a rigid and inflexible manner, can be harmful because you really get to believe that’s what you are.
Once you think you, you tend to react in ways that confirm this belief. You fasten only on data or facts that confirm and interpret neutral events as if you also confirm your beliefs. If you think no one likes you, you will interpret a gesture of weariness of another person as a rejection of you, and if someone rejects your invitation to join you, you think that he/she did so because he/she doesn’t like you.
While you identify with your thoughts, emotions and behaviors related to anxiety, you still have an anxious identity. What has not been considered so far is that you have thoughts, behaviors and emotions associated with anxiety and still do not identify with them and do not turn them into your identity. This anxious, depressed, aggressive or shy identity is just a set of mental habits and mindfulness teaches you to do deal with them positively.
It is very important to begin to change the ideas that you are not the identity that you have built, you are not that anxious, fearful, depressed or shy identity, but you are the consciousness that observes that identity.
Think, you feel, you act and react in certain ways and believe that all that is what you are. For example, you think you are afraid to do something that others react badly, they are going to reject and you avoid doing certain things you want to do, feeling your heart racing, and based on that you define yourself as an anxious person, reaching at the conclusion that that set of mental states and behaviors is you. And this is precisely the idea that you have to start changing. You are not your mental state and you are not the product of your mind. Your thoughts, ideas, mental images or memories are products of your mind and you do not necessarily have to identify with them unless you decide freely. If thoughts of self-criticism or self-deprecation, painful memories, worries about the possibility of being humiliated, etc. arise in your mind, those are the products of your mind and you do not need to identify with them, not even evaluate or judge but simply limit to observe them.
If you have heard of cognitive therapy, you will know the importance of thinking to shape your behavior and your life and how it can really help to learn techniques to change your thoughts for more constructive ones, but this is not the only thing you can do with your thoughts. You can also use a system based on mindfulness and observe your thoughts, emotions and other mental states. You can visit Mens Weekly to learn more on this subject.